Why balance isn't really about time management.

I know, I know...wtf am I talking about, right? Hear me out.

Balance isn’t really about the scheduling and planning. While that is a very important piece of balance or what one perceives as balance,  it’s really about how you feel about yourself. Do you believe you are worthy and deserving of having a life you love? A life that is filled with ease and grace? Are you willing to honor what you really, really want - your soul's desires?

I can tell you all day long how I do life with homeschool and business and self-care and planning, yada, yada. But if you don’t believe that you actually deserve that peace and ease, then balance will forever stay….elusive. Because you will continually be hitting an upper limit. This is the point of flow and goodness that you, likely subconsciously, believe you deserve. And once you hit it or go beyond it, self-sabotage sets in. (For more info on upper limits, check out The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks.) I know you know what I’m talking about.

Here’s an example of an upper limit problem is:
Everything in life is going great and then WHAM, the shit hits the fan and some financial disaster, fight, injury or illness happens sending you into a chaos spiral. 

What if instead of the above scenario, you honored your desires by saying NO to the things you no longer want to do because they weigh you down, suck your energy and they just don’t bring you joy. Wouldn’t you have more time AND energy to do the things you really want to do?

While this can be simplified down to, “Just make different choices.” There are two other crucial steps that needs to be addressed first.

1. Before we can make different choices, we have to BELIEVE we are worthy of the life we desire. We have to understand our self-worth is not based on our productivity but we are intrinsically worthy.
   
   
2. Then we have to love ourselves enough and FEEL deserving of this ideal life in order to be open to receive ease, grace and flow in our lives.

And when we feel different, we can make the decisions and take the ACTION that will create the balanced life you’ve always wanted.

Now, this might not be the answer you wanted or expected but it’s the deeper truth. And I wholeheartedly believe this is the path to making all our desires a reality.

Too often we are looking for the magic pill to solve our problems, right? I just want the blueprint the formula, etc. But guess what….there is no magic pill. We have to DO THE WORK. And start from the root cause. We are always looking for the quick fix (a.k.a. action) to change our situation but it starts way before the action. It starts with your thoughts and beliefs.

When I am addressing a root issue (which is constantly btw), I like to use affirmations and journaling to get the ball rolling down this path. I will write down an affirmation that resonates for me and say it repeatedly. I might meditate on it or set an alarm on my phone to say it at certain times or I anchor it with a certain task like jogging or walking or dishes, etc. 

Then each morning I have a 5 minute journaling practice that I commit to and I journal anything that comes up, like a free write.  Or I will intentionally answer specific questions to dive deep into what's going on for me. I listen to my inner self and write anything that comes out. Here's an example of some affirmation and journal prompts I might use. 

Affirmation
I am whole, complete and perfect just the way I am.
I am worthy and deserving of a life I love.

Journal Prompt
How can I love myself more today?
What are all the ways I am amazing?

After using these practices, you will find that your actions begin to change. Let me know what shifts or awarenesses you have when use these affirmations or journal prompts in the comments below.

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